Sunday, January 2, 2011
What Do You Really Want? I Mean REALLY?
This is the time of year we all take stock. And for most of us, it's a mixed bag of disappointment and desire. A win here or there, for sure, but mostly, well . . . there's room for improvement.
I didn't finish that manuscript.
Budget? You've got to be kidding. My bank account has become meaningless in any financial strategy.
I want to be on the New York Time's Bestseller list and have Hollywood clambering for a nod from me.
And so usually, at this time of year, we suck up our failures and somehow convert them to ideals for the next year, because our dream hasn't changed. We search the cosmos for a place to hang our hat and try to convince ourselves the new place is the right place and something magical is bound to happen.
We've learned how to formulate our goals: they must be SMART. Specific. Measurable. Achievable. Realistic. Timely.
Can I just say one word for all of this rhetoric toward intense introspection? Blick.
I've really been thinking about this.
In fact, for the last couple of months, the little list of tasks I have on my desktop is a lot different than one you'd expect from someone who actuallly wants to accomplish something. It's focused less on things I must accomplish than on how I want to feel after the outcome of actions I take.
At the end of the day, every day, I want to feel good about myself. I want to feel I have taken a step toward validating my dreams. At the end of the day, every day, I want to feel I've made a difference. The details are supplements to those things, but Those Things are the end goal. Every 24 hours. I'm hoping that not only will they help me achieve my dreams, but that I'll become a better person in the process.
So what I'm suggesting you consider is for your plan for 2011 to be less specific and more intrinsic.
But whatever you choose, we'll work through the year together. We'll celebrate and commisserate. I'll be as open with you as I can about my process and progress.
And there's no question I won't tackle.
For each reader here, whether regular or happenstance, I wish you validation in whatever you pursue. And to know what you really, really want.
CR: Secrets to Die For by L.J. Sellers
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